Experiencing Endings and Beginnings

Experiencing Endings and Beginnings highlights the emotional turmoil which, to a greater or lesser extent, accompanies the changes we experience throughout life. It considers the nature of the anxieties aroused by a new situation, changes in our circumstances, beginnings and endings of relationships, gains and losses, and the ending of a previous state throughout the lifespan. Endings and beginnings are shown to be closely related, for every new situation entered into, more often than not, involves having to let go of some of the advantages of the previous one as well as losing what is familiar and facing fear of the unknown. Isca Wittenberg shows how all these aspects of change evoke primitive anxieties, stemming from our earliest experiences of coming into this world. The book considers life changes including birth and weaning, going to nursery and school, beginning work, marriage, parenthood, and retirement, with reference to clinical examples. This revised edition includes a new chapter by the author examining advanced old age. Experiencing Endings and Beginnings will be essential reading for psychoanalysts and psychotherapists in practice and in training. It will also be of great interest to other professionals and to readers interested in understanding change across the lifespan.

Isca Wittenberg is a consultant psychoanalytic psychotherapist for children and adults who worked at the Tavistock Clinic for twenty-five years and was vice-chairman of the Tavistock for ten years. She is a lifetime honorary member of the Tavistock Clinic, and her previous books include Psycho-Analytic Insight and Relationships and The Emotional Experience of Teaching and Learning, the latter with contributions from Gianna Williams and Elsie Osborne.

Acknowledgements About the Author Preface to the first edition Author's Note CHAPTER ONE Learning from experience of endings and beginnings CHAPTER TWO From life inside mother to life outside CHAPTER THREE Separateness and new connections CHAPTER FOUR Weaning CHAPTER FIVE Becoming a child in the family CHAPTER SIX Going to nursery CHAPTER SEVEN Beginnings and endings in school CHAPTER EIGHT Tertiary education and entering the world of work CHAPTER NINE Getting married CHAPTER TEN Becoming a parent CHAPTER ELEVEN Bereavement CHAPTER TWELVE Retirement CHAPTER THIRTEEN Growing old and facing death CHAPTER FOURTEEN Growing ever older - facing the end of life References Bibliography Index