You're Not Broken: Your Brain Is Just Doing Exactly What It Was Trained to Do

You don't wake up hating yourself. You don't choose to panic in a quiet room. You don't plan to sabotage the good things. It happens. Without warning, without logic. But not without reason. Your brain isn't failing you. It's following a script—one written long before you even realized you were reading it.
This book isn't about fixing you. Because you're not broken. What you are is conditioned. Shaped by experiences that carved neural shortcuts. Built on survival patterns that once served a purpose but now quietly choke your present. The same reactions you shame yourself for—overthinking, freezing up, pushing people away, giving too much, shutting down—aren't evidence of your damage. They're signs your brain adapted, and adapted well.
You're Not Broken strips away the pathologizing lens and brings in the one thing you were never handed: context. Not in abstract terms, but in specific, recognizable patterns. Why you apologize when you're hurt. Why silence feels dangerous. Why compliments make you uncomfortable. Why you crave connection and dread it at the same time. These aren't character flaws. They're learned responses, hardwired by repetition, emotion, and survival.
Isla Westbrook takes you to the source without romanticizing the pain. This isn't about blaming your childhood or digging forever in the past. It's about exposing the loop your brain is stuck in—and more importantly, showing you the exit.
In this book, you'll uncover how your thoughts were shaped by what you witnessed, what you were told, what you weren't allowed to feel. You'll learn how the brain prioritizes safety over happiness, familiarity over truth. How what hurts can still feel like home. You'll begin to recognize how people-pleasing isn't kindness—it's a nervous system bracing for rejection. How numbing out isn't laziness—it's your brain conserving energy in overload. You'll understand why some parts of you fight to grow while others sabotage every step. It's not internal conflict. It's old programming running in the background.
This book is not a workbook. It's not filled with affirmations or surface-level hacks. It's a mirror. A sharp, honest reflection that helps you name the systems keeping you stuck. It offers language where you've only had confusion. It makes sense of the places that never quite added up. It doesn't talk down to you. It meets you at eye level and says, "I see why you are the way you are. And it makes sense."
With every chapter, you'll dismantle the shame you've carried. Not by sugarcoating, but by decoding. You'll see how what looks like self-doubt is often a nervous system trying to predict pain. You'll learn why hyper-independence isn't strength—it's a history of unmet needs. You'll realize your procrastination isn't a flaw—it's your brain avoiding overwhelm it was never taught to handle.
More importantly, you'll learn how to rewire without judgment. This isn't about becoming someone else. It's about reclaiming the version of you that never got to thrive. You'll be guided through real-world ways to speak to your nervous system, not fight it. You'll get tools that work with your wiring, not against it. Practices that don't require perfection—just presence.
You'll walk away with the ability to notice your triggers without becoming them. To pause without spiraling. To name what's happening inside you without needing to fix it instantly. You'll learn to sit with discomfort without becoming overwhelmed by it. And in doing so, you'll recover access to parts of yourself that never truly left—your clarity, your stability, your calm.
By the final page, you won't be asking, "What's wrong with me?" You'll be asking, "What did my brain learn, and how can I teach it something new?" That shift is everything. It's what puts the power back in your hands—not to force change, but to allow it. Gently. Strategically. On your terms.