Invisible Loyalties

First published in 1984. This book was written in order to share the authors' experience as family therapists not only with professionals but with families. We live in an age of anxiety, fear of violence and questioning of fundamental values. Confidence in traditional values is being challenged. Waves of prejudice seem to endanger our trust in one another and our loyalty to society. The strength of family relations or their effect on individuals is extremely difficult to measure. The authors of this book believe that observable changes in the family do not necessarily alter the member to- member impact of family relationships. Invisible loyalty commitments to one's family follow paradoxical laws: The martyr who doesn't let other family members work off their guilt is a far more powerfully controlling force than the loud, demanding bully. The manifestly rebellious or delinquent child may actually be the most loyal member of a family.

Ivan Boszormenp-Nagy, M.D. Professor and Chief of Family Therapy Section, Department of Mental Health Sciences, Hahnemann University, Philadelphia, Pennsylvania; Director, Institute for Contextual Growth, Ambler, Pennsylvania. Geraldine M. Spark, M.S.W. Clinical Assistant Professor, Hahnemann University, Philadelphia, Pennsylvania.

Chapter 1 Concepts of the Relational System; Chapter 2 The Dialectic Theory of Relationships; Chapter 3 Loyalty; Chapter 4 Justice and Social Dynamics; Chapter 5 Balance and Imbalance in Relationships; Chapter 6 Parentification; Chapter 7 Psychodynamic Versus Relational Dynamic Rationale; Chapter 8 Formation of a Working Alliance Between the Cotherapy System and the Family System; Chapter 9 Family Therapy and Reciprocity Between Grandparents, Parents, and Grandchildren; Chapter 10 Children and the Inner World of the Family; Chapter 11 Intergenerational Treatment of a Family That Battered a Child; Chapter 12 A Reconstructive Dialogue between a Family and a Cotherapy Team; Chapter 13 Brief Contextual Guidelines for the Conduct of Intergenerational Therapy; epi; Epilogue;