The Disappearing Male

The Disappearing Male by Joan Lachkar, PhD, provides a psychoanalytic/psychodynamic description of eight different kinds of men who "disappear" from relationships without warning or explanation. The term is not restricted to merely a "physical" disappearance but also to ones who emotionally disappear such as the "Robotic Man" described in the chapter of the OCD. Lachkar's personal, clinical, and professional experience have shown a number of women who have been vastly confused and hurt by the disappearing male. These men appear to be madly in love at the onset and then suddenly vanish without an explanation. Many of these women come into therapy sessions depressed, feeling traumatized, and abused by men who promise them the world, act as though they are the love of their lives, and then suddenly vanish without a call. By acknowledging the diagnostic distinctions of eight different types of disappearing men, this book can help to assist these women in recognizing the red flags and danger signs to prevent them from faltering in their relationship efforts. The Disappearing Male describes the symptoms of eight different diagnostic types of men that women frequently encounter. The symptoms and dynamics that are outlined in this book will vastly enhance an individual's capacity to become aware of the disappearing male "syndrome." This book is significant to the awareness and self-esteem of women in relationships, the dating world, and to the therapists that treat them.

Joan Lachkar, Ph.D., is a licensed marriage and family therapist in private practice in Sherman Oaks, California. She is an affiliate member of the New Center for Psychoanalysis, and the author of The Narcissistic/Borderline Couple: Psychoanalytic Perspective on Marital Treatment; The Many Faces of Abuse: Treating the Emotional Abuse of High-Functioning Women; The V-Spot; How to Talk to a Narcissist; and How to Talk to a Borderline. Dr. Lachkar is also a psychohistorian, and has published numerous articles on marital and political conflict in the Journal of Psychohistory, Frontpage, and Family Security Matters. Publications include The Psychopathology of Terrorism, a paper for the Rand Corporation.

Contents:
Acknowledgments
Introduction
Chapter 1 Overview of The Disappearing Male
Chapter 2 Theoretical Framework
Chapter 3 The Disappearing Narcissist
Chapter 4 The Disappearing Borderline
Chapter 5 The Disappearing Schizoid
Chapter 6 The Disappearing Obsessive Compulsive
Chapter 7 The Disappearing Passive Aggressive
Chapter 8 The Disappearing Depressive
Chapter 9 The Disappearing Cross-Cultural Man
Chapter 10 The Disappearing Woman
Chapter 11 Treatment Techniques, Approaches
Epilogue: Closing Thoughts
References
Glossary
Index
About the Author