An Emotionally Focused Workbook for Couples

The second edition of this essential and newly updated workbook is intended for use with couples who want to enhance their emotional connection or overcome their relationship distress. It closely follows the course of EFT treatment and allows clinicians to easily integrate guided reading, reflection, and discussion into the therapeutic process. Incorporating new developments in EFT and decades of research in the field of attachment, Veronica Kallos-Lilly and Jennifer Fitzgerald include chapters that explore concepts such as attachment bonds, the three cycles of relationship distress, how to make sense of emotions, relationship hurts and more. The workbook follows the familiar and accessible format of the first edition, Read, Reflect, and Discuss, and weaves fresh, illustrative examples throughout, with updated content considering the impact of gender, culture, and sexual orientation on relationship dynamics. Added reflections on these topics and an expanded section on sexuality dispels constraining popular myths and frees partners up to express themselves more openly. This book is essential reading for partners looking for helpful steps to improve the quality of their romantic relationships as well as marriage and family therapists, couple therapists and clinicians training in EFT to use with their clients.

Veronica Kallos-Lilly, PhD, is a Registered Psychologist and Founding Co-Director of the Vancouver Couple & Family Institute and Vancouver Centre for EFT Training in British Columbia, Canada. As a certified EFT therapist, supervisor and trainer, Veronica provides consultation in all modalities of EFT and presents trainings internationally. Jennifer Fitzgerald, PhD, Clinical Psychologist, is Co-Director of the Australian Centre for EFT, and has worked at the University of Queensland for the past twenty years teaching medical communication, health psychology and couples' therapy. She is a certified EFT therapist, supervisor and trainer, and teaches EFT in all states of Australia.

1. Introduction: Who is This Book For? 2. Attachment Bonds: The Best Chance of Survival 3. My Partner and Me: What Influenced Who We Are and How We Are in Close Relationships? 4. What Happened to Us? Three Cycles of Relationship Distress 5. Emotions: How to Make Sense of Them 6. More About Emotions: What Are We Both Feeling? 7. The Road to Security Is Paved with Good Intentions 8. Socially Useful Emotions: Hurt, Shame, Guilt and Jealousy 9. Rebuilding Our Bond 10. Relationship Injury: How Can We Repair the Damage? 11. Stories of Change 12. Maintaining Intimacy and Revitalizing Our Sex Life 13. Looking Ahead: Anticipating Life Transitions