Polyamory

Your favorite long-term client tells you they want to open up their relationship. Are you ready to help them? This groundbreaking guide to consensual nonmonogamy offers a reading experience that feels like consulting with a trusted advisor. Martha Kauppi equips you with the skills to be a true ally to clients who want to explore polyamory. Learn from the expert who trains experts as she debunks myths and shares the exact tools she uses with her own clients. Flip to any chapter for an understanding of what is possible, where things break down and why, and how to help. You'll learn how to conceptualize complicated relational dynamics in a way that leads to effective treatment, and how to identify and disrupt maladaptive relational patterns without perpetuating negative cultural bias. A must-read for anyone looking for a framework to simplify the complexities of polyamory.

Martha Kauppi is a marriage and family therapist, educator, and AASECT-certified sex therapist and supervisor with a lifelong career in health and sexuality. Martha specializes in working at the intersection of sex and relational issues. She creates and presents educational materials that are based in theory and scientific knowledge while also being practical, effective, and immediately applicable by therapists and their clients. For more information, educational opportunities, and a blog, visit www.instituteforrelationalintimacy.com.

Table of Contents
Acknowledgements
Introduction
PART I: POLYAMORY FROM A THERAPIST'S PERSPECTIVE
Chapter 1: Consensual Non-Monogamies: What Are The Options?
Chapter 2: Polyamory: What the Research Tells Us
Chapter 3: Overlapping Marginalized Populations and Intersectionality
Chapter 4: Polyamory Theory, or Why Polyamory Makes Sense to Some
Chapter 5: Who Can Benefit From Consensual Non-Monogamy?
PART II: CREATING A STRONG FOUNDATION FOR THERAPY WITH POLYAMORY
Chapter 6: The Therapist: Bias, Strengths, and Challenges
Chapter 7: What Makes a Good Relationship?
Chapter 8: Conceptualizing the Case: If Polyamory Isn't The Problem, What Is?
Chapter 9: Using The Initiator/Inquirer Process to Support Differentiation and Move Toward Decisions
Chapter 10: Getting Polyamory Therapy off to a Strong Start: Understanding the Change Process
PART III: POLYAMORY IN THE THERAPY ROOM: COMMON PRESENTING PROBLEMS
Chapter 11: Negotiating Polyamory: Forming Good Agreements
Chapter 12: Negotiating Polyamory: Talking Points for Partners
Chapter 13: Understanding and Addressing Jealousy
Chapter 14: Infidelity, Broken Agreements, and Building Trust
Chapter 15: Working with Mono-Polyams and Reluctant Polyams
Chapter 16: Recovering from Polyamory Gone Wrong
Chapter 17: Role-Related Challenges and Benefits: Primaries, Secondaries, Hinges, Etc.
Chapter 18: Relationship Transitions: New Relationships Energy, Relationship Decisions, Shifting Between Partners, and Breakups
Chapter 19: Polyamorous Families With Children and Coming Out Issues
PART IV: PROFESSIONAL CONSIDERATIONS
Chapter 20: Ethical Considerations
Chapter 21: Marketing Yourself as a Polyamory-Friendly Therapist
Appendices
A: Relationship Concept Worksheets
B: Emotional Balance Worksheets
C: Preparation for Communication Worksheets
D: Relationship Enrichment Handouts
E: Creating Change Worksheet Set
F: Crafting Your Unique Open Relationship Handout Set
Bibliography
Index
About the Author