The Narcissist in You and Everyone Else

Helps readers to identify how narcissism shows up in their own lives and when everyday narcissism becomes destructive.
The Narcissist in You and Everyone Else introduces readers to the notion of narcissism as a spectrum-based model of increasing loss of empathy (due to a variety of factors including genetics, trauma, abuse, conditioning and environment) that can give way to a propensity toward narcissism. Through studies and examples, Sterlin Mosley defines the 27 subtypes of narcissism and how these variations differ from the limited description of the narcissistic as popularized in psychological literature, movies, and other forms of popular culture. He offers readers an opportunity to explore how their own narcissistic tendencies may show up and how to challenge those tendencies to continue to push for greater compassion and empathy for ourselves and others. Using the Enneagram model of personality, Mosley explores and explains the variety of narcissistic tendencies and types and reveals useful tips on how to best to manage those tendencies in ourselves and the narcissists around us.

Sterlin Mosley, PhD, is a professor of human relations at the University of Oklahoma where he teaches classes on personality psychology, social change, cultural awareness and media. Mosley is a certified Enneagram Coach and Teacher and is scholar in the fields of empathy, narcissism and personality psychology. Mosley has developed and facilitated numerous undergraduate and graduate courses, professional workshops, trainings and lectures on the topics of personality, empathy, culture, gender and communication. He lives in Norman, Oklahoma.

Introduction
Part I: On the Nature of Personality and Narcissism
1 On the Nature of Empathy
2 The Empathy Spectrum
3 Narcissism, Sociopathy, and Psychopathy
4 Understanding the Enneagram Personality System
5 The Three Instinctual Drives and Narcissism
6 The Nine Enneagram Types
7 When Narcissism and the Enneagram Collide
Part II: The 27 Narcissistic Subtypes
8 Variants on the Narcissistic Spectrum
9 Type One: The Ethical Perfectionist
Self-Preservation One
The Puritanical Fussbudget
Social One
The Moralistic Inquisitor
Sexual One
The Zealous Crusader
10 Type Two: The Charming Supporter
Self-Preservation Two
The Entitled Caregiver
Social Two
The Flattering Networker
Sexual Two
The Aggressive Seducer
11 Type Three: The Successful Achiever
Self-Preservation Three
The Ruthless Workaholic
Social Three
The Disingenuous Opportunist
Sexual Three
The Untouchable Star
12 Type Four: The Intuitive Romantic
Self-Preservation Four
The Fussy Masochist
Social Four
The Entitled Outcast
Sexual Four
The Tempestuous Diva
13 Type Five: The Remote Investigator
Self-Preservation Five
The Miserly Misanthrope
Social Five
The Intellectual Elitist
Sexual Five
The Dark Voyeur
14 Type Six: The Loyal Skeptic
Self-Preservation Six
The Defensive Pessimist
Social Six
The Ambivalent Underminer
Sexual Six
The Overreactive Rebel
15 Type Seven: The Excited Enthusiast
Self-Preservation Seven
The Selfish Hedonist
Social Seven
The Gleeful Charlatan
Sexual Seven
The Flippant Rake
16 Type Eight: The Powerful Protector
Self-Preservation Eight
The Cynical Tyrant
Social Eight
The Mafia Don
Sexual Eight
The Charismatic Bully
17 Type Nine: The Peaceful Mediator
Self-Preservation Nine
The Neglectful Slacker
Social Nine
The Ambivalent Avoider
Sexual Nine
The Unassuming Manipulator
Conclusion
Notes
Bibliography
Index
About the Author